THIS POST IS THE SECOND IN A SERIES. SAMUEL HILL IS THE FIRST OF A COUPLE OF GUEST BLOGGERS, ALL OF THEM COMMENTING ON THE FAMILY PROCLAMATION, AROUND THE THEME: FAMILY IS CENTRAL. OTHER TITLES IN THIS SERIES INCLUDE:
~THE FAMILY IS CENTRAL: CENTRAL TO HAPPINESS
~THE FAMILY IS CENTRAL: CENTRAL TO FULFILLMENT
Many today
wonder why people of faith hold the family in such high regard
despite all the imperfections that seem to infect the institution.
When we defend the sanctity of the family in the many debates over
gay marriage, religious rights, etc., we are frequently criticized
for the high rates of abuse, infidelity, and divorce even in
marriages of faith.
One answer
that we do not often hear from the defenders of the traditional
family is this, which I consider to be the most important: the family
is a sacred institution to God. Of all the answers that people of
faith can offer, this ought to be the most prominent. In the plan of
God, the “family is central.” and cannot be done without.
Why this
emphasis, not just from people of the Abrahamic faiths, but also from
God himself? The simple reality is that the family is THE bedrock of
every good teaching, both in a religious sense, and in a worldly
sense.
One of the
finest accounts of this quality of the family comes from the Book of
Mormon tale of the Army of Helaman. Having converted to the faith of
Christ from an idolatrous and murderous life, the people of Ammon
were threatened with extinction by their former brethren, the
Lamanites, because of their faith. “Now
there was not one soul among all the people who had been converted
unto the Lord that would take up arms against their brethren; nay,
they would not even make any preparations for war...” When these
people came to “believe and to know the truth, they were firm,
and would suffer even unto death rather than commit sin...” And
indeed, when their former brethren came to battle against them, the
people of Ammon “went out to meet them, and prostrated themselves
before them to the earth, and began to call on the name of the
Lord...” Although 1005 of them were slain that day, their example
swayed an even greater number of Lamanites to repent and follow their
example. (Alma 24, approx. 77 B.C.)
Although
they found brief periods of peace in the decade that followed, within
15 years they were at war with the Lamanites again. No longer a small
skirmish aimed at only a single small population, the full massed
army of the Lamanite nation had gathered to conquer or destroy the
people of Ammon and their protectors, the Nephites. Seeing the
destruction and suffering, the people of Ammon thought to break their
word to God, and take up arms against the Lamanites in defense of
their freedoms. Instead, 2000 their sons who were too young to join
their parents’ covenant forswearing violence, volunteered to go to
war in their stead. These “very young” boys are referred to
repeatedly as “stripling,” an archaic word that means in essence,
a young adolescent. In my mind I liken them to myself as a scrawny 14
year old whose chest was about as well defined as a piece of plywood
(apologies to Mr. Friberg).
Despite
their youth, and their inexperience in war, these striplings were
described as “exceedingly valiant for courage,” and “true at
all times in whatsoever thing they were entrusted” (53:20). Their
response, when asked by their commander whether they ought to join in
a terrible battle against a mighty army, a battle that had already
taken the lives of thousands of seasoned soldiers, was thus:
46 For as I had ever called them my sons (for they were all of them very young) even so they said unto me: Father, behold our God is with us, and he will not suffer that we should fall; then let us go forth; we would not slay our brethren if they would let us alone; therefore let us go, lest they should overpower the army of Antipus.
47 Now
they never had fought, yet they did not fear death; and they did
think more upon the liberty of their fathers than they
did upon their lives; yea, they had been taught by
their mothers, that if they did not doubt, God would deliver
them.
48 And
they rehearsed unto me the words of their mothers, saying:
We do not
doubt our mothers knew it. (emphasis
added)(Alma 53, approx. 64 B.C.)
Imagine
the example these young men were raised with: Their parents had the
conviction to surrender their own lives without a fight out of
devotion to their faith; mothers and fathers willing to make the
ultimate sacrifice to keep their word to God. I do not wonder that
they became paragons of faith, integrity, and courage. Luckily for
us, our parents don’t have to be willing to die to show us a good
example. Any parent that tries to be a good
parent, will learn “to
love and serve one another, observe the commandments of God, and be
law-abiding citizens wherever they live.”
These are
just a few ways that the family teaches us:
- Pacing the hallway and singing to a child with stomach flue all night while they scream and cry? They learn to understand unconditional love.
- Admitting to your kid that something you did was wrong and apologizing to them? You’ve just taught them to be honest and humble.
- Getting up at an absurd hour because someone in your neighborhood needs help? You’ve just taught your kid to sacrifice for others.
- Explaining to you kid who just dropped an air conditioner out the window that even though you’re upset, you still love them no matter what? You’ve just given them a glimpse of how God loves them.
- Lovingly working alongside your child to clean the crayon marks off the walls? You’ve taught them both patience and responsibility.
- Making your kid do chores for money to replace the neighbors window that just met the business end of a baseball? That’s a lesson in accountability.
- The alcoholic father dragging himself to an AA meeting week after week despite frequent relapses? That’s teaching his kids about repentance.
- Praying together when you’ve lost your job and you don’t know how to eat next week? You’re teaching the kids to rely on God.
- Showing up at their baseball game even when you are dog-tired and the weather sucks? You’ve taught them that they matter to you.
This list could go on forever, and I’ve no doubt that most of you are thinking back to things your parents did that left an impression. I think you get the point: There is no other organization or structure on the face of the earth that can impart the many lessons needed to build strong societies, good governments, and a wholesome human race.
Samuel Hill is a husband, father, historian, gardener, disciple, gamer, teacher, political scientist and swordsmen without enough time to do them all. When he's not playing with his kids, he is often found neck deep in some old book that causes his wife to weep with boredom. Thereafter he is frequently found baking something to pay her back.
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